I read with sadness, the story of the Afghani women’s plight.

The Pashtun Afghan women are once again, putting back the ‘blanket’ on young women and daughters- especially the ones in cities- though themselves live far on the outskirts and in rural areas.

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They’ve sent their enforcers to put young women back in their place-again to be kept from school and closeted- and to keep their beauty to themselves. So show no stray hairs or glimpses of skin.

Fueled off old women’s jealousies- as they’re the ones who lead their Pashtun patriarchy; they us their men to ‘get them’. While the actual enforcement – beatings and canings are for the most part is executed by men; women are even more brutal at least in today’s article about them which I read.

Afghanistan, and many other similar “third world” countries, is a place that culturally treats women’s  bodies and brains like they were lumps of potato- meant to support all the rest of a dish but not stand out on their own.

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 They fear with good reason. Losing their husbands to her or that he bring her home when she turns his head stretch already what’s thin to a breaking point. Living in fear resources are too thin by marrying another one.

 Women who to the eye, often carry a scowl on their faces – or like they’re permanently sucking lemons. Embittered by their deprivations and ‘lack’- they are systematically ripped from their families. Before they’ve even started ripening, are thrust into arms of men with foreign households. No wonder they have no respect nor wishes for other women to be elevated. 

They, with their husbands and male elders, believe their bodies are shameful and need be hidden- especially when they have to submit to him. For them, sex has no pleasure and is pure obligation.

(Many Muslim countries cut women’s genitals so that sex is painful – for her, not him. For him it makes her tighter. In cultures where men are circumcised it’s opposite. Perhaps not done in Afghanistan, it is widely practiced in South and Southeast Asia, Africa, and India. They have a similar arranged marriage system in these countries, and the issues I raise here, apply to them as well.

Like many Muslim cultures, Afghani women and girls are subjected to various forms of “virginity tests”.

So while he’s trying to have intercourse, she is in pain. You can imagine sex for her might feel like rape. For a child bride with a man much older, there’s no such thing as consent.)

This is the world she’s birthing her son or daughter into- and she’ll treat her daughter the same.   To be born a woman is to be born unlucky – automatically. She is not honored for her as being- other than for the motherhood she creates for her new family connection.  Meanwhile mothers and fathers give special attentions to the son- spoiling him demonstrably with kisses, treats, and special touches treating him a princeling.

Knowing they’ll eventually lose the daughter to their husband’s whims for a marriage, mom and daughter don’t bond too closely. As mother herself has experienced this separation. Daughter early on is corrupted – her heart’s ripped -out.

At least until now, when daughter leaves home for the husband’s new one, they infrequently return to see their siblings. In her new “family”, she’s alone and isolated.

Effaced of family, she has no one to care for her. May it be so she soon kisses her palms and gives herself long hugs!

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In cultures with arranged marriage, married women see their spouses as alien ‘others’. It’s not uncommon to have a multi-year age difference with her being but baby fruit.

Men meet girls through girl’s fathers- and know little of her personally. Men are  raised as kings – to express their absolute free will while everyone scurries around them.  The new bride keeps her eyes down while she fits into his humming labyrinth.

Other than children, she gains from him only when he’s happy-then he’ll give her some trinket or a little extra to spend on for pampering herself or her children. At least that’s how it works here in the west- even though the guise is different. Many spouses have little to do or say with their wives – preferring the company of males (not that I blame them- what can they offer for original ideas – when they’ve been exposed to so little?)

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Women learn how to produce what the other half craves- by noticing what excites him and manipulating him to get more of that she then  gets her ‘crumbs’. So far, that’s how her intelligence is ‘used’ mostly.

In many of these ‘women-are-invisible’ cultures, they’ve no clue what the other half does – so can’t help him or offer her natural intelligence. 

Though he’s birthed in and by her body, made of her mitochondria, creating all his organs- including his brain, he (somehow) thinks of her as lessor. (Lol, and she believes it. Or at least acts so.)

Returning to the theme of my essay,  by keeping hubbie focused on what he can’t have – a young unveiled woman is often ~eye candy compared to his wife- a sad sack of potatoes. Especially when the wife already hates/dislikes him (her husband) bound together by family, not love, everyone’s held back, for now.

Sigh, with this new repression, once again the economy will suffer; bring out the starving poor peasant for the world stage to pity and throw money. I for one, will not be donating.

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As is common in so many areas, these Pashtun women- but could be any other culturally powerful group – will be inherently, the tallest and fairest. Like the British learned early to keep their faces attractive,  even while emotional, they do too. They keep themselves, despite ‘tests’ (testosterone infusions)- men’s unpleasant jocularity around them. It’s as likely these women are by any objective definition, somewhat sociopathic.

But really can you blame them?

Women are given into marriage – as a business deal their fathers make.  Think of them as living chess pieces.

This presents ramifications – 1) since a woman hasn’t become her valuable self which could be its own asset – for her, her husband, and her father as well, she doesn’t create nearly as much as she could have. Educated and educed into a greater version of themselves, this might even bring fame and monies to a collective- especially her new family. Without her gifts,  collectives are unable to blossom themselves.

2) As Daughters love their fathers, And our first belief is ‘ he loves me’. Because father’s  kindness helps our baby flower bloom. We, especially daughters, want to shower him with our earned gifts. With him we feel his heart melt. And vice-versa. At least mine did.

We want him to be happy with us! Dad is a mystery – yet, huge in our (especially a little girl’s) presence. For years my dad always got the best presents, even if I couldn’t be there.

(Mom, as a body, we ‘know’ already- having experienced nine months of her verbal and body responses as a developing child in utero.  We are familiar with all her responses to all that is heard and felt as resonance, cadence, and frequencies. We take her tenderness for granted after she nursed then (gently) weaned us.

Sorry mom it is easy to take you for granted – you have fully earned your special Mother’s Day!)

2) Shutting opportunities off again, is as if forcing a bird back into its cage. The caged bird will stop singing; her spirit flags. Imprisoned again, her feathers will droop and lose their luster.

3) To be kept closed and ~silenced, she’ll mope and plot. Those still at home, will give their dads a cold shoulder – until he relents.

Perhaps buy her some treat. Her rights will be used as a widget (this was even alluded to in the article- that the Afghan government might parlay women’s rights for aid monies –  instead of focusing on their lucrative opium trade or how they treat war prisoners.)

4) With fathers and daughters in further division, insecure mom’s will be secretly ~delighted. When daughter’s upset with dad, he’ll often turn back to wife and give her some  cookie crumbs of attention. While dads process their hurt feelings,  the scowler with her plastered smile put on ‘for him’, can once again feel needed.

But men will still go to their councils every day they can when they’re not working-where they will/ might get exposed to a new male mind, maybe even one more punitive, instead of charitable. Maybe this new mind inspires actions more draconian.

And too, they will go to the mosque to pray to Allah with all their friends and brethren-  leaving her to do ‘just’ dirty work-  take care of children, household and chores. Meh, if you ask me, men sound pretty worthless once their daughters leave them. Especially in nine times out of ten, they couldn’t get a girl on their own – but needed to buy a womb vessel for their sperm.

5) While the wives and old mothers control their environments by and passive-aggressively getting their emotional and mental needs met, they are bred to be dependent on their men- a little bit like lice. Though it might look like “loyalty”. 

They have no personal self-esteem. In fact it’s beaten from each of them whenever they “act out” (according to the in-laws’ whim). I pity those women with strong Uranus or sign of Sagittarius. But then they do “honor killings” for any girl that brings “shame”.

Talk about making a “marine” by stripping him of individuality: no wonder Pashtun women are cutthroat and fierce, let alone the men!

[Esteem – is your ~bee’s (of self’s) team. “Est” means “to be”.  To be, is to be measurable and tangible; you have the capacity to push matter around- like clay in the master’s hand. Developed, you can be more of ‘yourself’ with your own strengths and toolkit- and with that more valuable to your collective. With a team of any sort, you have a sense of your own personal sources. You have much more resilience – and can stay “in the game” longer.

You get to learn, (and earn) this self-esteem. Inner (self)-esteem isn’t given to you.

Though you may receive esteem unsolicited, it doesn’t feel real-and it is not- that’s flattery. 

When compliments are given by others, your reflection and projection- whatever you look like or did, to those in a position to judge (are perceived as having more power over of with you), elicited their words. 

And for their attentions you’ll want to do more of it – so they’re focusing your (future) behavior.

That’s not creative, but effacing and flattening. That’s why it’s called ‘flattery’. Once you feel your worth judged by them, you’ve try to to please. Who is then the “alpha” in this case – not you assuredly!]

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With nothing but their fiefs and tribal cliques, and dealing with what Mother Nature throws at them, these women think they’re protecting their status by holding other women down and back.

Really they’re depriving themselves of opportunity for their own happiness. If this sounds quite a lot like my swamp wo(e)-man, you wouldn’t be wrong. 

She could do much more herself, than just sit there moaning.  May it be so she regain her own joy. Here’s my link to the Swamp Wo(e)-man essay – bless her heart, she takes all our woes for us.

Swamp Wo(e)-man and Her World

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Traditionally, women’s  status is earned by her ‘works’ proving her to his family and friends- ensuring that the MIL’s king-child is treated they way she did.

When a new woman comes into the nest, or should I call it a den,[ In these “blended” families, some are   more snake-like than hu(e)-man. They are very territorial. To outsiders act cold-blooded. Lethargic when not impassioned, they enjoy seeing others in knots around them to be their entertainment.] they do test and stress her. This is intentional – to see where she’ll fit.

(Once married, she doesn’t get to see her family very often, at least until now- her heart is energetically broken. Call it a version of endemic corruption = heart rupturing. Everyone in the collective is touched by it- and is reflected in their punitive G-d.)

Fearing their sons or husbands will bring (another) mistress or wife home – which would replace or defer his affections – however thin they are, by suppressing other women, they enhance their own bitterness.[ By refusing to admit new ideas and blood into their communities, they stay stagnant and fighting to contain, rather than helping others blossom. Nor becoming sweeter with ripening- instead more rotten after having an unpleasant tangyness. Such are the costs of corruption.]

She losses her looks. This could be ~intentional, as I alluded to about sexual relations, and since she doesn’t exercise to get the tone in her body back.

[ Exercising isn’t the only way to get back your looks after childbirth but it really helps. Losing our waveform after swelling from pregnancy is mostly due to beliefs about it. (Not every women stretches and sags the same – but its’ not all genetics and what they do – its their beliefs too.)

The body needs to be reminded of it’s nonpregnant beauty.]

Instead, she turns into looking like a depressed sack of mashed potatoes.

There was a condition women used to get when I was working in family practice peculiar to Muslim older women, I think they called it the dwindles or something similar.

Be aware, ‘the dwindles’ is catching the more you’re exposed to it.

I hear the girls get it too now where they become comatose and lethargic lying in bed for months at a time- requiring (obtaining) around the clock attention focused on them. So far the doctors haven’t a cure for it.

 (What a way to be treated like a king and waited on hand and foot! Sure beats their alternatives.)

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Our mitochondrial being is a living flame.

“It” loves to move in all natural ways- and continuously- it does this anyway, with digestion, etc, but ‘wants to move beautifully too’.

Even after child-bearing, the body wants to regain itself- with gentle exercise it receives a version of joy hormones. Here is a lovely example: Facebook

By suppressing dancing and singing their a cultural decision (cultural = of the cult), they strip joy from their life unnecessarily. Just as there are rabble-rousers, just as there are natural singers and dancers – who are ~irrepressible. (Then it’s strong Venus and Neptune).

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As women with little understanding of the ‘outside’ world – living cloistered en masse, their psyche and will is not just circumcised but cauterized.

Turned off by male passion and heat- who do it all for them and which they cannot share. Their passions are cor-rupted.

And yet, each woman has planets Uranus and Jupiter somewhere in their chart, she also has a Venus and Neptune. So everyone has a type of genius and ‘topic’ of spiritual expansion; everyone has a muse.

There will always be Aquarians just as there’ll be Venusians.

Aquarian’s often demand to be kings – even if they aren’t kingly.  There are naturally rude and rebellious. They more often end up being scapegoats- unless they’re freed.

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And that’s the whole point. Everyone is a king inside; Aquarians happen to project theirs -onto the Leo in front of them.

 (While their counterpart Leo – who often looks like a kingly lion as many Leos do- with placid wide faces, broad foreheads, and curly flowing manes, etc.  Their looks resonate with the sun. They attract those whose inner sun’s are dimmed.) 

As Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto are slow moving planets, this applies to all the peers within a collective (not the parents). This creates generational tendencies and particular flavors to inter-generational conflicts.

(Check out Cosmos and Psyche, by Richard Tarnas. His is a wordy but extremely well researched book about the historical changes and global social evolution  from aspects between these outer planets.)

The house they are in, and where the planets are- is individual of course – but expressed in typical ways – according to the house it’s in. We each have a house ruled by Sagittarius of dreams and aims we could be building on to create our Capricorn’s kingdom.

Instead they are left to be engaged with familial and tribal cliques pointing and shaming.

I liken cliques and tribes to a bed or nest (or pit) of snakes. Everyone gets their information from the same places- so they breath the same air. Often there’s a stench- a constant ongoing theme of hatred, loss, disease, and death with someone in the collective.)

There is rare opportunity for outside information (which might really be helpful for their individual condition)- like having a pure diet of Fox News or MSNBC. (Both are quite toxic!)

 With schools or universities to educate them while they learn shareable (and marketable) skills, expanding their wisdom and knowledge- they become  more interesting before marrying.   They’re enhanced. Instead of left to be puny.

(This is slowly changing thank goodness, but it needs continuous central government support.)

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While most anyone can become impregnated, not everyone will be happy or thrive with just child- and family-bearing. Especially when they find their spouse repulsive or family members distressing, when they’ve been led to believe there’s ‘no way out’.

[ After all as women, we have ~18- 20 of healthy ~easy childbearing years, so we can birth several children in a single, let alone two decades. Even if a woman marries at thirty – she’ll most likely give you lovely grandchildren- those little beings that melt our hearts and bring us dreams – of a world  open with possibilities. Babies reminds us (our subconscious) we once had dreams.  So there’s time for a woman to become her dream self first, before she meets her husband. Bound by common interests, you’ll make ‘better’, more competent, children when you both love to do the same things. Your descendants will be natural leaders – as their intelligence is supported to be creative not as judging.]

More often they succumb to what they’ve been fighting against.

If you think this is all conjecture, I invite you to read, “A Wife for my Son” written by a man Ali Ghalem, about an Algerian woman’s plight in the Muslim dowry system.

But I can think of many individual circumstances where similar ideologies persist here in the USA too, so I’m not going to project it all onto them. Let’s keep digging.

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Bound to clan, women fail to meet their own equals- which would let the men have possibility to lead much more interesting and fun lives- with someone who ‘gets’ them. For all this is such a loss.

Left with even less stimulation of brain and inspiration of intellect, women’s attitudes suffer and morale collapses.

Instead, they use their natural gifts of intuition to be poisonous.

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When their husband adds a new wife, and they aren’t anything but dignified and proud of it, their new insecurities are a force- from their state of being in lack and literal destitution creates negative outcomes; there will always be the wife who takes it particularly hard or personally.  With this they further harden to become bitter and more inflexible.

Within the clan, there’s a shuffling in status-which are fragile already – so far built up on who produces the best parties,  possessions, and self pampering-  nothing personally affirming or durable. When their social life is affected, their esteem drops further.

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Her inner voice is already caustic from how severely she’s been brought up -with  beatings when ‘necessary’ or when things goes ‘wrong’. In the manner her mother lived displaced in her husband’s family – while she was pregnant and so forth.

 In their tribal cliques – which shame and blame for any losses or lapses of relationship or otherwise, when their man takes a mistress or other wife, her collective of women give her shrewish ‘should have” (s), “would have”(s) advice or more likely, uninvite- and shun her.

Lacking support of their sole provider- they suffer hunger. Hunger could be written several ways as to give you some idea of its deeper meaning. Hun- ger reminds me of the warring Huns with whom their were prisoners. Hung er, when you’ve  held back you energy – the way the enzymes are ‘waiting’ when you haven’t broken fast. All of which are pertinent to the subject at hand.

Brains in hibernation, slowed from the cold, are ~hungry while they’re also in a state of torpor and slumber, they just don’t know it. 

As long as someone chooses to capitalize on inequalities, and use gestures of ‘alleviation’ as a tit for tat, you know there’s theatre.

Then the economic need is manufactured. The situation is fueled by dramatic reasons- such as I’ve alluded to. There might even be a foreign instigator – someone who rabble rouses to heat the situation.

This is the way the British divide and conquest- personally enrich themselves, without doing the dirty work. (Call the British Uranus in this case, with the US being Saturn; and it’s true, Britains are castrated.)

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While it is harsh to throw women back into purdah-  fathers will suffer most. Their daughters, for many men, are a main delight, and she will turn her back on him. Morale will drop when within the collective as everyone’s walking on eggshells.

If a woman’s work can generate taxes, now decreased, there will be less revenue and with that less money for roads and schools.

Being shunned is not fun – you’re excluded and overlooked. This evokes angry emotions. Neither will be as productive as once was; more time will be spent on getting nurturing from their peers -generating more rumors and attachments; family further suffers.

This deepens unhealthy behaviors since they’re turning away from each other instead of supporting their collective.

In the U.S., broken and corrupt families fuel a “sin” economy- people using taboos methods of trying to feel better- like drugs and prostitution. Good thing Afghans have opium, they’re going to need it. (Just like we have Pharma and alcohol).

And as most of the country’s revenues come from poppies or grains (or so I’m lead to believe and I’m not going to research), families and tribes don’t have much economic resilience.

May it be so they one day have more to create and share.

Further more, even if they don’t (necessarily) get paid – expressing their ‘songs’ would lift their collectives’ morale up.

And yet, being a depressed culture is more by the ‘messaging’, than any actual lack.

Witness, here in the US, many of us successfully work from home – or nearby and especially part-time is fun. Brings in both money and sense of independence from expression of one’s ambitions = creating for themselves.

As the US and the west has a history of including women in more and more facets of life- often initially forced to by male shortages, they’ve added shine and polish to every field they’ve been included in. Our national resilience is excellent.

(We know this since we test it so often- see how fast a community gets together after school shootings and other mass casualty scenarios. We’re super saviors.)

 I assure you this treasure is there to be found, even though it’s now as if they’re living in a well.  

I can’t wait to see to see the brains and brilliance come out!

May it be so I live long enough!!! All is Inshallah! (But we can always improve our timelines.)