Re-silience (resilience) is a buzz word everyone likes to use – to describe kids and adults who are able to ‘bounce back” and re-buckle in, after seeing or hearing about traumas[1] and tragedy.
Including me, I know lots of ‘resilient’ people, who look and act as if they are able to be ‘calm’ at their school or work, the next day, week, or month later. You might regard them as “Teflon” people. Able to go back to being productive, they might even seem nonchalant.
Once Heh is gone, the actual event stabilized- a th-ing become a t-ing, and feels like good-bye G-d’s breath. With Heh’s window shut,it’s c’ealn-up time’.
Kaph does His th-ing- provides one with palm of G-d’s Yod. The part of a situation you first feel – reasons come later. The angels come out to heal and help. Aleph’s die is cast by Bet/Beis the Magician, with the wish – that things hadn’t happened or were different.
While the breath of the ‘th-ing’ diminishes, physical impacts remain. Families might get disrupted- some never to be whole again. This is not always a bad th-ing.
Tau, the physicality of whatever happened, leaves scar(e)s in His wake. Whether you can measure them– or not, or just didn’t ask the right questions, wounds are psychic, don’t forget.
Mortals are left with t-ing – tsking and thanking – “it wasn’t us”- but them affected.
*****
Perhaps we resilient ones seem able to be ‘silly’ and laughing, while engaging in play; after the commemoration assembly’s over, we quietly go back into offices and classrooms.
That when it’s, “back to normal”, nod our elders.
Like cats, we regain perches on our windowsills of life- though they may now be different.
Re-sil(l)ed, as in feel cozy and safe again- we perambulate our labyrinths, perhaps more slowly, at least briefly.
Again content to peer out life’s window –
seeing what passes by as unreal ticker tape – the world’s out there, I’m ‘just doing my th-ing’.
At the same time the future’s still unspooling. Maybe to be re-sil-ient is to sit like my cats do- staring out at the street for entertainment.
While dogs wait to ‘play’, like bring a ball to their master, cats create mischief.
In most cases after an event or episode, one is left with less sense of control.
While we we can’t ‘know their motives’ when there’s an act egregious and we cannot know the “whys” precisely,
As part of our collective, they’re the tip of our cultural (and metaphysical) iceberg; their trails and activities give accurate clues.
To be re-silient then, might be to be re-silent in passivity. Re-silenced again. We are told, don’t get mad, get even; we are encouraged to keep wounds festering. With one less Yod in the word re-silenced -perhaps with less hope there really was the hand of G-d in all of it..
Next th-ing you know, here comes a “me too” action too – especially when there’s fanfare guaranteed.
*****
But maybe Yod went in instead – to you, as you breathe the gift of life all over again, this time, from somewhere deeper.
Sure after any cat-astro-phe, (willfull damn astral phenomenon- you know cats are pure will…), grades drop for a quarter but rebound -as each he or she redoubles there efforts to co-exist with onslaught of media probing, interviews and documentaries sure to follow. Life for them is busier.
When grades drop, many a student will get a ‘dad’ talk, where dad expresses his concern – urges his offspring to carry on and “rise above”. It would seem, at least in my family, expressing emotions are frowned upon no matter their cause.
(For example, even I after my divorce, mother dying, pets dying, and becoming possessed and losing (quitting) my job all in ~ one year, was told to “get a grip”, I was being “too emotional” when I let a couple of tears out on the phone while talking with my sister. You could say, we worship a stiff upper lip.)
Forbid to cry, nor being held with any kind of tenderness or care, I stuff it as suggested- at least until now- as we see others crying publicly – not talking.
(Thank you lady alcohol and Ms. Mari-ju-ana, after over-exercising, another of my favorites- stifling instead of taking it out on others. Though I ~used to lash like an old man with PMS later.)
Today I might cry, put on a red hat (to warn I’m unstable), and go putt-putting.
It is not fun when “wars” and “tragedy” happen but, as such events seem inevitable- at least until now and until more wake up -please see them as tests.
Look at them as tests to see if YOU are on focus.
So practice “laughing it off”, say to yourself, ‘Oh yeah…that was supposed to happen just like that, so I/you/they can prove I/you/they can heal from this too’ – and become even “better”, than without. All this to prove how much we can go through and still turn out OK.
For most of us, at least in the USA, compared to our individual family lineage’s objective life before, ours is vastly “improved”.
Think of the actual rights, freedoms, and support we do have- because we’ve agreed they’re important! I know it’s not perfect.
Sure, the media is spins a story any old which way that (for them) sells newspapers- giving the impression to readers, everything’s hopeless.
But in fact, instead of assuming, school and community leaders are also studying the ‘situations’- which is a good thing. Seeing the silver lining may take a few years, but it is there- I can think of several.
Today there are ‘sides’ sitting down, developing robust visions for themselves and developing new “~Robert’s rules” – learning what does help to defuse.
(Once they stop naming problems – instead focus on solutions (and being the change themselves- without anyone telling them), the situation is bound to improve. That’s the law of attraction, in action.
One solution might be to engage with more nature and less WWweb).
However it’s done, may it be often- even if its as simple as watching a pea plant grow; re-focus their observational skills from looking for problems and de-rangement, to on what is fresh and new again.
Amen.
[1] Tr-auma is “trauma”, is a word derived from German for dream (Der Traum, Die Traüme)
(Now you know what my ‘garble’ is. LOL)
Once Heh is gone, the actual event stabilized- a th-ing become a t-ing, and feels like good-bye G-d’s breath. With Heh’s window shut; Kaph did His th-ing when Aleph’s die was cast by Bet/Beis and the Magician.
While the breath of the ‘th-ing’ diminishes, physical impacts remain. Families might get disrupted- some never to be whole again. This is not always a bad th-ing.
Tau, the physicality of whatever happened, leaves scar(e)s in His wake. I put the “e” on the end – scars – and our attitude about them, changes over time. Whether you can measure a scar(e) or not, or just didn’t ask the right questions, wounds are psychic, don’t forget.
Mortals are left with t-ing – tsking and thanking – “it wasn’t us”- but them affected.
*****
Perhaps we resilient ones seem able to be ‘silly’ and laughing, while engaging in play. That when it’s, “back to normal”, nod our elders.
After the commemoration assembly’s over, we go back into offices and classrooms.
Like cats we regain perches on our windowsills of life- though they may now be different.
Re-sil(l)ed, as in feel cozy and safe again- we perambulate our labyrinths.
Again content to peer out life’s window -seeing what passes by as if unreal tickertape – at the same time knowing the future’s still unspooling.
In all cases with less sense of control than before.
While we We can’t ‘know their motives’, our “whys” precisely, they’re the tip of our cultural and metaphysical iceberg; their trails and activities give accurate clues.
To be re-silient then, is to be re-silent in trained passivity. Re-silenced again. Don’t get mad, get even.
Maybe to be re-sil-ient is to sit like my cats do- staring out at the street for entertainment. while dogs wait to ‘play’, cats will create it. Yes, even cats make their own play!
Next th-ing you know, here comes a “me too” action too – especially when there’s fanfare guarenteed.
Though perhaps with less hope, as there’s one less Yod in the word re-silenced.
But maybe Yod went in instead – to you as you breathe the gift of life all over again, this time, from somewhere deeper.
Sure after any cat-astro-phe, (willfull damn astral phenomenon- you know cats are pure will…), grades drop for a quarter but rebound -as each he or she redoubles there efforts to co-exist with onslaught of media probing, interviews and documentaries sure to follow. Life for them is busier.
When grades drop, many a student will get a ‘dad’ talk, where dad expresses his concern – urges his offspring to carry on and “rise above”. It would seem, at least in my family, expressing emotions are frowned upon no matter their cause.
(For example, even I after my divorce, mother dying, pets dying, and becoming possessed and losing (quitting) my job all in ~ one year, was told to “get a grip”, I was being “too emotional” when I let a couple of tears out on the phone while talking with my sister. You could say, we worship the stiff upper lip.
Forbid to cry, nor being held with any kind of tenderness or care, I stuff it as suggested. Thank you lady alcohol and Ms. Mari-ju-ana (after over-exercising, another of my favorites)!
Punishing myself instead of taking it out on others – though I ~lashed like an old man with PMS later. Today I might cry, put on a red hat, and go putt-putting.)
It is not fun when “wars” and “tragedy” happen but, as such events seem inevitable- at least until now and until more wake up -see them as tests.
Look at them as tests to see if YOU are on focus.
So practice “laughing it off”, say to yourself, ‘Oh yeah…that was supposed to happen just like that, so I/you/they can prove I/you/they can heal from this too’ – and become even “better”, than without. All this to prove how much we can go through and still turn out OK.
For most of us, at least in the USA, compared to our individual family lineage’s objective life before, ours is vastly “improved”.
Think of the actual rights, freedoms, and support we do have- because we’ve agreed they’re important!
Sure, the media is spins a story any old which way that (for them) sells newspapers- giving the impression to readers, everything’s hopeless. But in fact, instead of assuming, school and community leaders are also studying the ‘situations’- which is a good thing. Seeing the silver lining may take a few years, but it is there.
Today there are ‘sides’ sitting down, developing robust visions for themselves and developing new “~Robert’s rules” – learning what does help to defuse.
(Once they stop naming problems – instead focus on solutions and (being the change themselves without anyone telling them), the situation is bound to improve. That’s the law of attraction in action.
One solution might be to engage with more nature and less WWweb).
However it’s done, may it be often- even if its as simple as watching a pea plant grow; re-focus their observational skills from looking for problems and de-rangement, to on the fresh and new again.
Amen.
[1] Tr-auma is “trauma”, a word derived from German for dream (Der Traum, Die Traüme)
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