Because I’ve signed up for several astrology and philosophy websites which are of interest, I receive a lot of promotional emails –usually sent by the hu(e)-men hosts themselves. Often these are exhortations, calls to become a personal coach, but some are musings about their personal journeys.

 One I recently read was from a young (I’m assuming) male who is annoyed he loses his keys a lot. He presents himself as a comedic writer navigating the newfound joys of parenting and managing his household. He is an engaging writer! He doesn’t mention his partner a lot I sense some isolation.

He also prefaced his essay with a picture of a cut out blob of a being carrying a shoulder bag– the person’s image cut out- in front of a bank kiosk. (So maybe he’s feeling effaced as well- I can relate!)

 I couldn’t resist but send him a reply –after all, he’s sharing his words with me- it is only fair to share what his words elicit.  It turns out he is living the life of culturally displaced immigrant – coming to the US at a tender age from Odessa.

The following is a summary of our exchange (s). I thought I might share them with you too in case you resonate!

Inspired by the title to his essay- “When all (keys, wallet, etc) is lost”, “you lose some, you lose some” (despite being tagged with all new fangled gadgets), I wrote back the following. Knowing I might generate some push back.

To:​ A.D.

​(From me) “Ironically your subconscious is trying to tell you something when you “lose” things – you don’t need them any more – or not in the present form. Your some self, which remembers everything important, isn’t attached any more. Hmm, ’tis a thing to ponder.

Blessings!

Jen”

His response:

“interesting…..but like, I do need my keys and wallet no?? “

And I shared:” That’s the thing – for you -some element of keys and wallet are, “no”. Maybe it’s particular keys or who gave you the wallet! Maybe your job isn’t fitting (source of money for wallet). Lol. Something to wonder about.

 For example, I generally remember my stuff. I love both of them so it’s easy I usually know roughly where I put them. And it’s true I have a purse – which really makes it easier to keep stuff together. 

For your wallet- having a nice wallet, one definitely takes more care for it. Maybe buy yourself a nice one! If you can’t do that you might put cool stickers that make you laugh or cheer you.  I know it sounds silly but stuff like that is very helpful. 

Mine was tangerine orange to cheer me, and the store clerk (they were the ones to notice it first) as it emerged from the depths of my purse. I live near Seattle where the weather is often gloomy.

Or put on your keyring a token or key that you would never want to be without (even if symbolic). That might help. And they have really cool man bags in France, Italy, Greece, etc. Crossbody bags are easy to manage.

Best of luck!

Jen”

From A. D. “hahah thank you. I mean youre not wrong I do not want my phone around and am trying to lose it all the time(!)”

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The next day or so he sent me another essay (he’s developing his email list):

 “But what if I don’t know who I am???? i feel like I look to validation for a sign of who I am / who I need to be (an immigrant with roots cut deep)- I’ve added parentheses

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Dear Alex,

Get a three by five and start writing down all the stuff you like/strikes your curiosity about your day on one side- and the things you didn’t on the other. At the end of a week check it out. Next week do more of the the + side. In time you’ll gravitate more and more to the life of your (subconscious) dreams. Of course G-d will be leading them! Everything is on His time. Be patient! Enjoy the little moments.

 Don’t you have a wife and new baby?! Enjoy and celebrate them. Make parties for no good reason. DO some little chores, just because. It will matter very much to those you did them for.

You could check out your astrology chart free on astro.com – look under “extended chart settings”, then “Pullen astrology” -“chart interpretation” they give you a well researched written printable review of your particular strengths and virtues. Ignore anything negative – those things are only true when the energy is suppressed or blocked (or overdeveloped at the expense of everything else).

Also can sing your name’s vowels sounds – your real name you love the most whether it be Sasha or Alex! Followed by whole name out loud and said lovingly to ground yourself in goodness. (Might do it in the shower.)

Blessings!

Dr. Jen

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From A. D.: “Hi. I originally published “you don’t need everyone to like your work” in 2018. Obama was no longer president, music ruled the airwaves, and I was juuuuust getting started as a guy who writes stuff online.”

 (After he is questioning his writing- who it will appeal to- he’s a young immigrant male (from traditional background, navigating fatherhood.)

Hi Alex,

The best audience you will ever have is the one in the mirror. So put yourself as avatar when you’re concentrating. What would you – in any one of your reincarnations really want to /need to / love to hear to keep a sense of humor as the world challenges?!

For every business type of engagement consider that in actuality a small percentage of any given population would be its “inner circle” of devoted customers. Each business appeals to its own demographic in a particular way. Success is personality driven. I’m betting even Starbucks could put up identical structures in a block (so called identical- really the sun and exposure would always be different- as would the workers) – and still gain a thriving, but different customer base – especially if they favor different ‘personalities’ at each place. Some love novelty- others love traditions.

(Our recreational preferences are technically all astrologically predicted. “Romance” – those things that inspire and engage us and get us out of ruts, are a reflection of our 5th house cusp – with twelves signs, each with three decans, to choose from. Preferences then are actually quite specific- when we look at charts individually.)

As a comedian, you will grow a devoted following with those who share your similar sense of humor. Aim high! As life unfolds you’ll continue to unfurl as well- and your audience will also expand at the same time. (Some life lessons are there to teach us what we don’t want as well!)

Truthfully, for any given widget (or product), most people might benefit from some version of it – so really there’s no such thing as competition; you probably aren’t going to resonate with someone way far out of your demographic. Stay true to yourself!!!

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Blessings,

Dr. Jen

From A.D.:

” i know ur right but this shit is hard!!!

i appreciate you caring and writing me “ (from A.D.)

Here is a link to his site. https://open.substack.com/pub/botharetrue/p/you-dont-need-everyone-to-like-your?r=1am588&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Advice I need to keep in mind for myself! All is Inshallah!