Science confirms that hanging on to negative emotions like jealously, anger, regret, and hate will hamper our ability to learn. In fact, the longer and more often you feel (gut, adrenal and thalamus) fear, the larger the two amygdalae under your temples become. This subverts activity to frontal lobes and short-circuits the hippocampus and limits your ability to see situations clearly.
Eventually, if we cannot or are unwilling to forgive either of ourselves or others, but hold onto grudges and ‘being right’- the amygdala grow larger. Environmental triggers, persons, places, or things, even a smell or sound, can recall the event and, in defense, the body and brain reacts to protect itself. Just like building a muscle. With continued stress, our capacity to develop abstract ideas, which might help us solve problems more effectively, shrinks. Many of us focusing on survival strategies instead.
There are easy and helpful remedies.
Turn off the TV. Meditate. Read a book. Talk to a friend. Do a chore that has immediate results. Go outside and weed. Volunteer. Count your blessings coming and going in each of the seven directions. Find what works for you, and do it !
Plans and decisions made with a clear attitude will create greater happiness and integrity for you and the loved ones in your life. May you have many blessings in your day.